Juan to Understand the Mind of the Tardy. Part 1

Okay since my pen name is The Late Juan Miguel it might be a  good assumption that  it is a result of my inability to get to an appointment in time. If that is your assumption then you are partly correct, I got this from my accounting professor during 2nd year college because I have failed to be on time for majority of her class. Nowadays I'm trying to turn over a new leaf, with the word trying as the operative term.

I remember watching different movies that have rehab scenes in them, all of them say that the first thing you should do is admit that you have a problem and that you need help. Go ahead admit it. (I admit I am chronically tardy). Okay now lets look at the different traits of tardy personality.

• Risk-takers: These people are addicted to the thrill of leaving for their appointed destination only when they absolutely must. They don’t mind taking the risk of being late, because they don’t want to risk being early and waiting for others. This may be because deep-down they fear feeling rejected, if they wind up waiting for others.
• Freedom-makers: Those who felt trapped by authority as children often grow up to be “late-niks,” who use lateness to feel free. Their intense wish not to be controlled by others may be at the root of their lateness. Or they may have a rebellious nature that essentially tells others: “You will not tell me how to run my life and when I have to be somewhere.”
• Organization-slackers: Another reason someone may be late is poor organizational skills. They have difficulty planning out a realistic schedule and calculating how long each of their tasks will take and how long it will take them to get to their appointments on time. These people generally have poor organizational skills, though they may be very intelligent.
• Trouble-avoiders: These people, unconsciously or even consciously, wish to avoid the people they are supposed to meet or the place where they are going. This may be the reason for their lateness. In these situations, lateness may be a form of passive-aggressive behavior. Since they’re angry that they must go to an appointment, they make others wait for them. These late-niks may not even be aware of their anger.

*from Dr. Gail Saltz is a psychiatrist with New York with New York Presbyterian Hospital and a regular contributor to “Today.com”. 

Do you have any of the traits above? Hell... I do.